Before entering my home please be mindful of the following:
Do dont ask my child what do you want to be when they grow up. Who said they can only be one thing, dont tell them experiencing anything fully is less important than achievement.
Don't ask them what is their favourite subject. Ask them what they enjoy doing.
Don't say things like 'you are to small for this' or 'you are old enough for that.'
Don't say things like you can't or you won't or you shouldn't. Ask them why they want to do what they want to do.
Don't tell them you are very pretty. Tell them exactly what about them you find pretty and also that its just your individual opinion not everyone may agree.
Don't keep smiling at them like a retard or maniac for longer than 5 secs. You can stare blankly at them, smile, laugh, frown, make funny faces even cry if you must. But if you are going to hold eye contact with them for longer than 5 secs let it not be a fake smile.
Don't you dare yell, shout or howl at them unless you were mimcing wolves or shouting with joy.
If you shout on others in front of them say sorry to them after you are done shouting. Remember both compassion and frustration are natural emotions and can be dealt with, hatred however is not.
If they shout or throw tantrums at you simply walk away. If they follow you, tell them you only speak to kind people.
Don't ask them to sing and dance for your entertainment, if they choose to do it just watch. And don't tell/show them how they can better it. You can do that when the stage is all yours.
Don't ask them who do they like more, mom or dad. Ask them instead who is their fav teacher and why.
Ask them what new they learnedand not just in school.
Don't ask them what is their favourite pet.
Ask them when was the last they played with, feed or loved any living creature or went in to a forest.
Don't ask them who is their best friend at school, ask them who are the nice people at school they know and why.
Don't ask them what is their favorite food, unless you yourself plan to cook for them.
Don't give them gifts without a story.
If you see them crying don't ask them to stop, ask why and how can you help. And don't help unless they want you to so also ask 'do you want me to help?'. Or else come and talk to me. And while they tell you why they are crying please just listen. Remember children are never shy of asking help due to ego, thats just us. If they dont want your help may be they dont trust you and may be they have a good reason not to.
If you find anything written above rude. Please do not entre my home. Because I may not be able to control what happens outside this door nor would Istop my children from exploring it but on this side of the door its a sweet haven they return to.